Sweets Wilson Williams


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Sweets Wilson Williams

In this episode, I speak with Dr.Sweets Wilson Williams. The biggest takeaway from this interview would be that life is a struggle when you don't have a purpose. We should look at ourselves often and ask ourselves hard questions that will challenge our understanding of life. 

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Under the link section, you will find a link that will take you to Dr. William's website. When we talk about how to inspire, motivate and empower others, we need a network of people with knowledge. 

I hope that you have found value in today's episode.

 

Dr. Sweets S. Wilson

Faith Based Therapist

  • Licensed Alcohol and Drug Counselor (LADC)
  • Licensed Master Social Work (LMSW)
  • Licensed Forensic Counselor (CCFC)
  • Licensed Domestic Violence Counselor (CCDVC)
  • Licensed Forensic Sex Offender Treatment Specialist (CCFSOTS)

Sweets S. Wilson, a native of Harlem, New York, is the daughter of immigrants from Jamaica, West Indies, and Cuba. 

Dr. Wilson is a professional faith-based therapist who will help you illuminate underestimated strengths while identifying self-limiting mental roadblocks. She specializes in helping individuals in transition, or who desire to bring about momentous change. From helping individuals move through a new stage in life, handling trauma, mental health, addictions, grief and loss, establishing yourself after a divorce, or achieve a desired life purpose through a therapeutic experience.

Dr. Wilson offers transformational therapeutic counseling, using various modalities with virtual therapeutic environment: cognitive behavioral therapy (CBT), dialectical behavior therapy (DBT), motivational interviewing (MI), functional family therapy (FFT), mindfulness and meditation techniques, trauma therapy and resources. Individuals can learn from their crisis, remove blocks to success, and gain self-mastery to direct their lives as they want to. She transforms you while giving you innovative access to power and clarity to reclaim your life and live successfully on your terms.

Sweets Wilson Williams

[00:00:00] Sweets Wilson Williams: Ed, I have never met an entire, um, what, let me see, it's the millennials, the X generation, the Y generation, the Zen generation. And now we have the, A,A, B, B generation. I, I'm telling you, they're all, all they do is operate off of emotions, I'm not getting any cognitive input here. Like when I say, well, what do you think about that?

[00:00:23] Sweets Wilson Williams: Well, I feel, is the response. No, I didn't ask you about how you felt, I asked you, what did you think about that? No one thinks anymore, everything is based off of their emotions and we know data, data, data. So it's not me, it's not Dr. Wilson saying this, it's what researchers have done. And they say,

[00:00:46] Sweets Wilson Williams: just like the coach says, when you are hungry, do not go grocery shopping. Cause you will buy stuff and never buy the good food that you need for your diet.

[00:00:55] Ed Watters: Impulse.

[00:00:56] Sweets Wilson Williams: There you go.

[00:00:57] Ed Watters: It's an impulse.

[00:00:58] Sweets Wilson Williams: There you go. And it's the same thing with this emotion stuff, you, you

[00:01:03] Sweets Wilson Williams: can't win with that.

[00:01:10] Ed Watters: To overcome you must educate. Educate not only yourself, but educate anyone seeking to learn. We are all Dead America, we can all learn something. To learn, we must challenge what we already understand, the way we do that is through conversation. Sometimes we have conversations with others, however, some of the best conversations happen with ourself. Reach out and challenge yourself. Let's dive in and learn something right now.

[00:02:02] Ed Watters: Today we are speaking with Dr. Sweets Wilson. She is the CEO of Inspire Me, LLC. Also her website, IME ministries.com. She is licensed in five different areas. And with that being said, Dr. Sweets, could you please introduce yourself, give us a little more background about who you are and how you got to where you are today?

[00:02:35] Sweets Wilson Williams: Okay, hi everyone. I hope everyone is having a wonderful evening, it's evening time here, where we are. And so, um, yes, my name is Dr. Wilson and I'm a professional faith based therapist. I also do transformational coaching where we offer mentorship to develop strategic leaders of the future. Um, an entrepreneurship development to achieve physical stability.

[00:03:01] Sweets Wilson Williams: And we just recently added this one, M O V E, Men Of Valor Emerge. And that's a support group for men because I'm hearing a lot from the men that there's nothing out there, everything I do is for the ladies, so here you go, man, you have the support group. I like to help people illuminate underestimated strengths and together we will identify the self-limiting roadblocks.

[00:03:27] [easy-tweet tweet="Sweets Wilson Williams: Cause you know, in life we all have these roadblocks, we have these hurdles and barriers, you know, and sometimes we fall prey to it and we don't rise up and overcome it, it overcomes us." user="freecircle3" hashtags="#Podcast"] And then we sit back and we say, like the dream deferred or I should've, could've, would've. So we're here to help you with that,

[00:03:45] Sweets Wilson Williams: okay. We can assist you in learning from your crisis, remove the blocks to success, gain self mastery, and direct the life that you and God wants it to be. That's in a little nutshell.

[00:04:04] Ed Watters: well, with, with all of that experience it would take a book to explain everything. So we're here to scratch the surface and get to the bottom of basically who you are and what got you started into all of this?

[00:04:21] Sweets Wilson Williams: You know, um, high school,

[00:04:23] Sweets Wilson Williams: yeah, it's funny, it, it, I really have to laugh. You know how they say your steps are ordered? I, I didn't think so cause I was grown, you know, and I, I, I knew what was best for me. But anyway, I took this exam in high school and it was just like a career kind of, you know, to know what you were gonna major in college

[00:04:40] Sweets Wilson Williams: cause I didn't know. And it stated that I was good at like sociology, physiology, psychology, all ologies, right? But I said, no, that's not impressive, no, I, I can't do that. I did math, I went in as a math major. In my junior year [00:05:00] I realized, I said, okay, you proved your point, you can do this, okay. You have the head space for this, but do you really wanna do this for the rest of your life?

[00:05:14] Sweets Wilson Williams: And I said, no, but anyway, so we graduate. and our first job was in human, a human service job. I was, um, a social worker, a case manager, clinical case manager. And I realized that I truly, truly enjoy helping people, okay. Um, it, it taught me to look at people differently, everyone doesn't come from the same frame of reference that you and I come from,

[00:05:39] Sweets Wilson Williams: right? Everyone doesn't have the same

[00:05:41] Ed Watters: That is so true.

[00:05:42] Sweets Wilson Williams: exposure, Right? But everyone still deserves a second chance. Still someone near to, to be the wing, the wind underneath their wings to tell them you can do this. Or try, you can't blame yourself, at least, if you try, you just might be successful. And so I found out that, um, I was successful in my caseload

[00:06:08] Sweets Wilson Williams: because I really listened to what the people said they wanted versus what the agency said they needed. Now of course, I said to them, I'm here because this is what the agency say you needed, do you need this? And they will go, yeah, yeah, well, yeah. Okay, so we're gonna do that to satisfy the agency, but I also want you to tell me,

[00:06:30] Sweets Wilson Williams: what do you want? I'm the wishlist, what do you really want? And we incorporated that into what the agency wanted to achieve the goal. So everybody is satisfied, the client is happy, and the agency is happy, and all benchmarks were made. But I started to realize that, um, then I got into different areas like the mental health,

[00:06:55] Sweets Wilson Williams: you know, the, the statistical piece of it, um, the financial piece of it, and it was like mind boggling. I was like, wow, you know, but here's a testimony. I worked for over 30 years for someone. With all my credentials and licensing doing workshops, doing all this stuff, but too afraid to leap out on my own, you know?

[00:07:22] Sweets Wilson Williams: Cause at least with the job, you're guaranteed sick time, you're guaranteed vacation, and please don't let it be a holiday, I'm gonna get paid and don't have to go to work, okay. And so I

[00:07:32] Ed Watters: That's comfort.

[00:07:34] Sweets Wilson Williams: Huh? Huh?

[00:07:36] Ed Watters: That's comfort.

[00:07:37] Sweets Wilson Williams: Yes, yes.

[00:07:38] Ed Watters: That is comfort.

[00:07:39] Sweets Wilson Williams: Yes.

[00:07:39] Ed Watters: Yes.

[00:07:40] Sweets Wilson Williams: And it was stability, but I was scared because I kept mumbling like, I can do better than this, these people ain't teaching me nothing. And then when it came for the review time, they wanna give me 25 cents for a raise?

[00:07:54] Sweets Wilson Williams: After all the money I made for you, you can only, not even a dollar? I said, I'm only worth twenty, you know, little things start to kind of hit you in the face and you say, well, if you're worth 25 cents then you're worth 25 cents. If you think you're worth a dollar, then you go out there and you prove it. I prayed about it, I fasted about it, I thought I heard the voice,

[00:08:17] Sweets Wilson Williams: I tried to act like I didn't hear the voice. So one day it was just resonating in my ears, how do you say you love me and you won't trust me? That was it, I had to give it up.

[00:08:30] Ed Watters: That's interesting.

[00:08:31] [easy-tweet tweet="Sweets Wilson Williams: Yeah. How do you say you love me and you don't trust me? Cause if, if I say that I love the Lord, he only does good things." user="freecircle3" hashtags="#Podcast" template="light"]

[00:08:41] Sweets Wilson Williams: He, you only get bad things when you do bad things and you get chastised, but it's in love, right? You're to learn from it. So if he's saying, Sweets, take this leap. I need to trust him, that he's not gonna let me fall, okay. And then I had to ask, who am I doing the leap for? If I'm doing it for him, for him to get the glory, I don't have to worry about anything. But if I'm doing it for me, oh, that's where the fear came in.

[00:09:10] Sweets Wilson Williams: So I, I hope that's helpful to someone because, you know, there's a lot of us out there, like, just give it a try. And if you believe in anything, you know, hold on to that faith, because it's that faith that's going to carry you through.

[00:09:27] Ed Watters: Yeah. Uh, you know, and passion with that faith, that's a, that's an overwhelming

[00:09:35] Ed Watters: blinking light saying, do something about it. And sometimes when you don't do it, it can really hurt you in many different ways in the long term with your social thinking about who you are, what your status in, is in our society. And we're a very social creature and to [00:10:00] be on the outskirts thinking that we're not worthy of being within the crowd when it should actually be the other way around. Let the crowd chase you and, and be a guiding light, a beacon of hope to people.

[00:10:17] Ed Watters: And when, when encouraging others, I don't like to preach I, I like to teach and there's a big difference. Even though, uh, I used my faith in many, many ways to interact with people. It's a barrier in many ways if you use your faith in the wrong way. So to go out there and insult people and tell them you're not

[00:10:52] Ed Watters: doing things properly, that, that really doesn't work all the time. You have to kind of

[00:10:59] Sweets Wilson Williams: No, no, no, that season has passed.

[00:11:00] Ed Watters: show them.

[00:11:01] Sweets Wilson Williams: No, no, no, that season has passed. In, in, way back in the early 19 hundreds, it was good. Remember, the country was in a different state of mind, people were in a different state of mind.

[00:11:11] Sweets Wilson Williams: It was a lot of migration, and trans, and people traveling to different parts, looking for a better, brighter future, okay. But this is the 21st century, okay, and so what worked in the 19th and 20th century, brother, it's not working in the 21st century. I'm a living proof to tell you none of it

[00:11:30] Ed Watters: Obvious isn't it?

[00:11:31] Sweets Wilson Williams: Is working. That's right.

[00:11:32] Ed Watters: Yeah.

[00:11:33] Sweets Wilson Williams: When, when we went full fledge cyber, okay, COVID shut everything down. It had everybody reevaluating their life, their purpose, their mission, even their faith, everything got reevaluated, okay. And it, it, it helped you, for us who were born in different times, say maybe in the 20th century, you know, we remember a time

[00:12:04] Sweets Wilson Williams: with certain things where you used to play jacks. This, this was good for hand coordination, you know. Um, jump double dutch outside, that means that would require you going outside, get some fresh air. That would require you having some social skills to talk to some, some girls, to have some friends

[00:12:22] Ed Watters: That's right.

[00:12:23] Sweets Wilson Williams: to jump rope with, okay, all that kind of stuff.

[00:12:26] Ed Watters: That's right.

[00:12:26] Sweets Wilson Williams: So, you know, and we didn't realize that this was like preparing us for the future. So when, when we go to, you go to school and all of that, you have the acclimation, and the socialization, and, and the teenage years and all of that, okay. So now we're working and we're trying to be grownups, pay our own bills.

[00:12:44] Sweets Wilson Williams: And then we go back to our parents and we tell 'em how grateful we are because we never realized that you're worth all this money, but you don't get to keep it. The government helps themselves to 40%, they tell you, this is what you need to live with.

[00:12:56] Ed Watters: That's right.

[00:12:56] Sweets Wilson Williams: Then the church comes in and they talk about, okay, now we gotta do 10%,

[00:13:00] Sweets Wilson Williams: so now we're down to 50%. Then the rent, the food, the, you know, all that kinda stuff. And it's like, when I lived at home, I didn't have to worry about that. The fridge was always full, you know, I even made my own grocery

[00:13:12] Ed Watters: That's right.

[00:13:13] Sweets Wilson Williams: list, okay. But now, now I'm looking for coupons, okay. So,

[00:13:18] Ed Watters: Yeah, yeah, that's right.

[00:13:19] Sweets Wilson Williams: You go back to the parents and you tell them how grateful you are and you really understand the sacrifices that they made for you.

[00:13:26] Sweets Wilson Williams: But that's the

[00:13:28] Sweets Wilson Williams: journey of life.

[00:13:28] Ed Watters: Growing up, growing up is humbling.

[00:13:34] Sweets Wilson Williams: It's, yes, even with, even if it wasn't a good one because

[00:13:40] Ed Watters: That's right.

[00:13:41] Sweets Wilson Williams: as children, yes, we were subjected to some horrible stuff. But guess what? When I came of age, when I became 21, the government said it, I don't have to listen, live there.

[00:13:58] Sweets Wilson Williams: I could do whatever I want, I had create, how about this? I had the power for my destiny, okay. So the Bible says, when he came unto himself, this is what happened, supposedly at 21. Now, with all this power, now you sit and you say, so what am I gonna do with myself? Oh, how do I do this? Okay, now the journey begins because even if it was horrible, you still have a chance to make it what you want it to be. But that might require you changing your perception, your thoughts on some things. Because if you came from negativity, then all you're gonna know is negativity.

[00:14:42] Sweets Wilson Williams: So you might need some coaching,

[00:14:44] Ed Watters: That's right.

[00:14:44] Sweets Wilson Williams: or some mentoring, or some training on how to release, let go, process that negativity, and then substitute it with something positive. Something that's gonna bear fruit, that's gonna make you the beacon of light where you [00:15:00] go, okay? And when you tell people what you came from, and where you are now, and where you're going, that offers hope, you know, it offers hope to people.

[00:15:14] Sweets Wilson Williams: Because it's like, we'll hang in there if we have hope.

[00:15:19] Ed Watters: That, that offers lasting change also, you know, when, when we, when we learn not to limit ourselves and don't let others limit who you are. Because a lot of the times our association with others is what we are. And learning to change that,

[00:15:42] Ed Watters: to be a positive force, it, it's a very tough road. Uh, that change was so hard for me because, you know, I came from a background, it, it wasn't good in many, many ways. But in many ways I cherish every moment that I was raised in, there was many times I enjoyed myself. And I understood, well, these joys that I'm experiencing as a child, they, they might not be the right experiences for a child and that's not always easy for a child to decipher in their own mind.

[00:16:29] Ed Watters: So growing out of that and becoming who you are and who you really want to be, it's a struggle. You know, I'm still doing it.

[00:16:42] Sweets Wilson Williams: It's, it's, it's a struggle. Here we go, when you don't have purpose, okay, and that's something that we do at Inspire Me, you know, we ask the question, what is your purpose, okay? And then we ask you to let us help you find your passion,

[00:16:59] Sweets Wilson Williams: become self-aware, improve relationships and, with other people and self. Because, you know, alright, so we're in the age now of technology. Everybody, I'm really surprised if somebody tell me they don't have a cell phone of some sort, I don't care if it's an iPhone, or an Android, or

[00:17:17] Ed Watters: That's right.

[00:17:17] Sweets Wilson Williams: flip phone,

[00:17:17] [easy-tweet tweet="Sweets Wilson Williams: you have a phone. Because that is where all the information is." user="freecircle3" hashtags="#Podcast" template="dark"] And it's interesting because I hear my colleagues, you know, they, they start to mumble, they say, I can't believe they sent me an eCard, no one sends a card in the mail anymore. And I was nicely say, I said, well, you know, they didn't have to go to the store and buy it and they didn't have to pay for postage.

[00:17:43] Sweets Wilson Williams: But they thought of you, they created a neat card and it, it's the, it's the transition from what we used to know to a new, a new something new, you know? I mean, the E cards are pretty. Come on, let's be honest, how many cards are you gonna get and what you do with it? You eventually throw it away if you don't recycle it, make it into another card or do something with it.

[00:18:05] Sweets Wilson Williams: If not, it goes in the garbage, right? Or you stock pile it and then it becomes what, clutter. But an eCard, you can read it, it sings to you, and you can play it as many times, you can save it on your digital platform, okay? And it doesn't take up any space in the home, you know. But it's, it's, it's,

[00:18:23] Ed Watters: I've gotta get into that.

[00:18:27] Sweets Wilson Williams: it's it's it's me, it's me really embracing and helping my colleagues embrace the technology. Because this is what I say to them, we were trained for the life that we live now. What they have in front of them is for their life, for the future. We may or may not be there, but they will be. That, this is what, what we see now with all of this AI, and the, you know, everything, you know, virtual platforms, and all of that, that is the next generations future.

[00:19:01] Sweets Wilson Williams: So we have to help prepare them for it. So then now they know how to navigate that.

[00:19:07] Ed Watters: Yeah, because that, that is a scary situation we find ourselves creeping into and we have been for several years, but the technology is outpacing the

[00:19:24] Ed Watters: understanding, and that can be dangerous. So, uh, from the old world, we've taken things kind of slow. And now we're getting into this, uh, fast paced world and it's, it's like second Timothy, uh, three, you know, one through five that, that tells you the world that we are living in. And it's, it's interesting that

[00:19:51] Ed Watters: many people don't slow their minds down to understand the world we live in. And [00:20:00] this, this is why I found fascinating the D B T, uh, that you work with people about. Because I, I, I read kind of through that and this is actually what helps change people, this, this technique. And I'm gonna look deeper into this because it's the first time I've actually heard of D B T. Uh, I've heard of the C B T, you know, but what you're doing here,

[00:20:34] Ed Watters: could you outline what this is for people and how, how it works to help baby step you into change?

[00:20:45] Sweets Wilson Williams: Um, well, D B T is called Dialectical Behavioral Therapy and it's a type of talk therapy. It is based on Cognitive Behavioral Therapy, so some of it comes from C B T. But what D B T does that, and here's, just keep, now, I mean, I don't wanna get technical.

[00:21:06] Sweets Wilson Williams: I mean, I love this stuff, you know, and I, I, I'll talk like everybody knows what I'm talking about, so you gotta, you gotta reign me in sometimes, so here we go. DBT is like this, they break everything down in steps. Step one, step two, step three, step four. They make the cognitive goal very workable. In other words, it's the implementation of a goal in steps.

[00:21:31] Sweets Wilson Williams: So here's an example, if someone was to ask you, how do you brush your teeth?

[00:21:39] Sweets Wilson Williams: There you go, you walk them through the steps. Oh, well now you go into the bathroom, you turn on the light. Do you turn the water on first? Or do you get the toothbrush first? Do you wet the toothbrush with the water? Or do you get the toothbrush, put the toothpaste on it? And do you wet the toothpaste? Or do you just use the dry toothpaste on the brush? Now when you brush the teeth,

[00:22:03] Sweets Wilson Williams: do you stand in front of the mirror and you brush up and down, sideways? Or do you go and open mouth and brush the back molars first? I mean, look at the steps. So if someone doesn't know how to brush their teeth, this is how D B T comes into effect, step by step. It's usually used for children with behavioral problems,

[00:22:24] Sweets Wilson Williams: it is very much widely used for the autistic community, okay, and anyone with a disability, or is in a rehabilitative situation because you are relearning something, okay? And the step by step helps you, especially if you have short term memory. So if you have a step by step, something written somewhere, Then you'll always have the favorable outcome because you follow each step until it becomes what? A routine or you memorize it,

[00:22:58] Sweets Wilson Williams: okay. That's why we know how to brush our teeth, cause as a little kid, we did it. And when we didn't do it right, somebody would help us, right? Now we, we've done it so much, we could do it with, matter of fact, we don't even have to put the light on in the bathroom anymore. We know where everything is and what to do because it's become routine,

[00:23:18] Sweets Wilson Williams: right? And that's what D B T does, it takes complex goals and objectives, it makes it simple for, and for implementation and it just gives you the steps. How's that?

[00:23:32] Ed Watters: Wonderful. You know, that, that really helps when people break something down for you because when you're handed a box of parts and say, here, put this together, believe me,

[00:23:46] Ed Watters: it's tough. Done it many times, but it's the same concept. You, you have to be able to recognize the parts where they go before you can even start to understand how to put something together. So recognizing that you need help is not a weakness. And reaching out to people that actually care enough

[00:24:14] Ed Watters: to help you recognize the steps without insult, this is a very, uh, interesting thing that we have going on in our society today. Because mental health has a stigma and we really have to burn that stigma away from how we think. We have to be able to ask for help without fear of rejection, or harm, or retaliation.

[00:24:48] Ed Watters: There, there's so many people in the mainstream that don't slow down enough to think about the person they're [00:25:00] helping. How, how do you intake your people and what is the process of onboarding somebody that actually needs help?

[00:25:12] Sweets Wilson Williams: Uh, well, one of the, the steps is that we ask that, they can contact us through our website.

[00:25:18] Sweets Wilson Williams: Um, I don't know if you guys list the website, or do you want me to tell them what the website is?

[00:25:23] Ed Watters: Go ahead and tell them.

[00:25:24] Sweets Wilson Williams: It's www.imeministries, M I N I S T R I E S.com, it's one word so they can Google us. And then, and then, you know, and they'll see all the available staff. I mean, we have staff with different diverse talents,

[00:25:44] Sweets Wilson Williams: okay. So in case they don't want what I'm offering, we have other staff that can offer some things. Um, or they can email me at Dr. Wilson@imeministries.com, okay. Or the good old phone call, like back in the day, 8 6 0- 4 6 9- 2 1 8 4. But if I may take the opportunity to address the weakness, okay.

[00:26:10] Sweets Wilson Williams: Society, and this is where we get this message from. Society has told all of us, has brainwashed us to think that if you ask for help, you're weak. But no one is born strong and no one is born knowing it all. So if I ask for help, I'm weak? No, that's why a lot of people suffer in silence because they're afraid to ask for help because they don't wanna be perceived as weak.

[00:26:39] Sweets Wilson Williams: You know, when I deal with couples with relationships, okay. Or the adolescence when they're getting ready to do the dating thing. Oh my gosh, when I tell you a lot of it is just really, really basic. You know what it is? Just plain old communication, we don't know how to communicate with one another. We're afraid to show vulnerability,

[00:26:59] Sweets Wilson Williams: we're afraid to be transparent, cause there's no safe environment for that, okay. We don't create a safe space for people that, even if they felt like they were going to be weak, that they were gonna be in a safe space to get stronger, okay. Cause after weakness comes what? Strength, you gotta get stronger,

[00:27:21] [easy-tweet tweet="Sweets Wilson Williams: you can't get weaker, you're gonna get stronger. But if you already feel self defeated, it makes my job a little harder, you know?" user="freecircle3" hashtags="#Podcast" template="user"]And, and it's letting go of those shackles and those bondages, ideas of weakness and, and rejection. And because it's something that we, that you are going to feel one way or another, but it's how you treat it and you perceive it,

[00:27:48] Sweets Wilson Williams: okay. When we deal with emotional intelligence, okay, and this is the new wave of the 21st century. I'm telling you, Ed, I have never met an entire, um, what, let me see, it's the millennials, the X generation, the Y generation, the Zen generation, and now we have the, A, A, B, B generation. I, I'm telling you, they're all, all they do is operate off of emotions,

[00:28:15] Sweets Wilson Williams: I'm not getting any cognitive input here. Like when I say, what do you think about that? Well, I feel, is the response. No, I didn't ask you about how you felt, I asked you, what did you think about that? No one thinks anymore, everything is based off of their emotions and we know data, data, data.

[00:28:36] Sweets Wilson Williams: So it's not me, it's not Dr. Wilson saying this, it's what researchers have done. And they say, just like the coach says, when you're hungry, do not go grocery shopping. Cause you will buy stuff and never buy the good food that you need for your diet.

[00:28:52] Ed Watters: Impulse.

[00:28:53] Sweets Wilson Williams: There you go.

[00:28:54] Ed Watters: It's an impulse.

[00:28:55] Sweets Wilson Williams: There you go. And it's the same thing with this emotion stuff, you, you can't win with that.

[00:29:02] Ed Watters: I'm so glad you brought that emotional intelligence up, I was just thinking about it before we got on together. You know, how, how lost we are in this sea of emotion and not being able to put it away to actually talk. And that communication that you spoke of earlier, that is so, that's the key for everything. And that has helped me bring myself out of a lot of disparity,

[00:29:38] Ed Watters: uh, you know, I, I wanted to do assisted suicide at one time because of not only my physical pain, but my emotional pain. Because I did, I struggled with so much and I could not understand the emotional intelligence value that needed to be applied to my life. Put [00:30:00] order and stature into what I think and be solid with it.

[00:30:06] Sweets Wilson Williams: Yes.

[00:30:07] Ed Watters: This is good emotional intelligence. And I don't have to argue with people,

[00:30:13] Sweets Wilson Williams: That's right.

[00:30:13] Ed Watters: arguing is not good for you.

[00:30:17] Sweets Wilson Williams: No.

[00:30:17] Ed Watters: So,

[00:30:17] Sweets Wilson Williams: It's their perspective. No, it's their perspective and see, guess what?

[00:30:21] Ed Watters: That's right.

[00:30:22] Sweets Wilson Williams: Let me tell you now the power that we have. Anyone who claims to be a faith believer, this is the conversation for faith believers

[00:30:31] [easy-tweet tweet="Sweets Wilson Williams: only. If you say that you have a faith and you believe in a higher deity, whether you call him Allah, uh, Jehovah, God, um, the higher power, you name it, it's something greater than yourself." user="freecircle3" hashtags="#Podcast" template="qlite"] If you believe in that, what does it say is the fundamental? We're to pray. I can't, do nothing for you, but I can pray for you and ask the higher power or God Almighty

[00:31:03] Sweets Wilson Williams: to shed some grace upon you to help you, to hear your prayers, to sustain you, to protect you, to cover you until you come into your senses. [easy-tweet tweet="Dr.Sweets Wilson Now, the Bible that I read says, that the prayers of the righteous will not, avail much." user="freecircle3" hashtags="#Podcast" template="modern"] So therefore, okay, if I am honest and I'm sincere to God about praying for someone, whether it's my enemy or not, He'll honor it,

[00:31:31] Sweets Wilson Williams: He will honor it.

[00:31:32] Ed Watters: That's right.

[00:31:32] Sweets Wilson Williams: Cause it's His child as well.

[00:31:36] Ed Watters: Yes.

[00:31:37] Sweets Wilson Williams: You know,

[00:31:37] Ed Watters: That's, so many people forget that.

[00:31:43] Ed Watters: Huh?

[00:31:43] Ed Watters: That's right, people forget that, that's right. That's the part we're missing.

[00:31:45] Sweets Wilson Williams: We're all God's creatures, we just look different, but we're

[00:31:47] Ed Watters: That's right.

[00:31:48] Ed Watters: all His creatures.

[00:31:50] Ed Watters: That, that's the most powerful thing we've said in this whole conversation right there. We, you know, a, one time I did a podcast titled, Skittles.

[00:32:04] Ed Watters: You know, Skittles are so many different colors, to myself, inside they all taste the same. But we're all unique in shape and color.

[00:32:18] Sweets Wilson Williams: And I think because of the colors, we tell ourself that we're tasting a different flavor, but it's the same thing.

[00:32:25] Ed Watters: That's right.

[00:32:26] Sweets Wilson Williams: Wow.

[00:32:27] Ed Watters: That's right.

[00:32:27] Sweets Wilson Williams: What an illusion. That's good,

[00:32:29] Sweets Wilson Williams: I like that.

[00:32:30] Ed Watters: That's right.

[00:32:30] Sweets Wilson Williams: I'm gonna use that one. Thank you.

[00:32:32] Ed Watters: Amen. And, and, you know, once we get that, it can help transpire the rest of the world into something positive. Because there's a lot of people that don't get it and, and I, I do, I pray for those people often. And I, I really lament because they, they are hurting.

[00:32:59] Ed Watters: So the power of prayer, and it's personal prayer, I don't mean going out and, uh, making a show out of it, but that personal, intimate prayer that nobody knows about, that's the powerful type of prayer. And when we get that, we can move mountains

[00:33:19] Sweets Wilson Williams: That's right.

[00:33:20] Ed Watters: and I've witnessed it. So, our time is coming to a close,

[00:33:28] Ed Watters: is there any call to action you want to instill upon our listeners?

[00:33:33] Sweets Wilson Williams: Well, we do have some openings in our transformational coaching program, in our mentorship program, and our, uh, entrepreneurship development program. We also, again, I have to mention the M O V E, the Men Of Valor, um, Emerge, Men Of Valor Emerge, um, support groups.

[00:33:54] Sweets Wilson Williams: So if, reach out to me, if you're interested in anything or if you just want counseling, you know, if you just want a different perspective, touch bases with us. See what, you know, if we can't do anything, we have plenty of referrals, we have resources that run like tree trunks, okay. So just reach out, touch base and, um, and see what we're about.

[00:34:16] Ed Watters: Now do you have plans to do multimedia, like podcast, YouTube, things like that?

[00:34:24] Sweets Wilson Williams: I would love to, um, but we're looking to hire someone in case somebody out there wants to apply for the job, um, to help us

[00:34:34] Sweets Wilson Williams: with that because that's not my forte. What I do is what I do, I stay in my lane. Now I need them tech people, them young people who're into that stuff, all that social media stuff. I mean, they'll look at something and say, oh no, you forgot to do this and I would be looking at it all day and don't even realize it.

[00:34:50] Sweets Wilson Williams: So, yeah. You know, um, we're looking to hire someone that's, um, that does like the digital marketing kind of thing, or, um, [00:35:00] branding, you know, or even write programs, okay. Because, you know, the new, the, okay, oh, here we go. Remember, the new program back in the day was Adobe?

[00:35:09] Ed Watters: Yes.

[00:35:09] Sweets Wilson Williams: Remember that?

[00:35:10] Sweets Wilson Williams: Guess what it is now?

[00:35:11] Ed Watters: Yes.

[00:35:12] Sweets Wilson Williams: They kicked it up a notch, it's called Python.

[00:35:15] Ed Watters: Uh, oh.

[00:35:16] Sweets Wilson Williams: That's another discussion for another podcast, why they had to name it a snake, but it's called Python.

[00:35:23] Ed Watters: Yeah. Well that, that computer age, it's, it's a mysterious age. I've been having some, uh, tremendous conversations about what the digital age is actually bringing forth in our world and how we have to be prepared.

[00:35:41] Ed Watters: And there's a lot of, uh, things we have to be aware of in our world. Don't be an ostrich, keep on top of what is around you. I wanna say, thank you so much, Dr. Sweets, for

[00:36:00] Sweets Wilson Williams: Thank you for having me.

[00:36:01] Ed Watters: joining us.

[00:36:01] Sweets Wilson Williams: I Appreciate it.

[00:36:03] Ed Watters: Yeah, it, it's been a fantastic journey with you and I hope many good things for you and we need to get hooked back up and do another podcast together.

[00:36:16] Sweets Wilson Williams: Reach out anytime.

[00:36:17] Ed Watters: Thank you for joining us.

[00:36:18] Sweets Wilson Williams: You're welcome. Take care.

[00:36:23] Ed Watters: Thank you for joining us today. If you found this podcast enlightening, entertaining, educational in any way, please share, like, subscribe, and join us right back here next week for another great episode of Dead America Podcast. I'm Ed Watters your host, enjoy your afternoon wherever you may be.